I see the upside for her (as in no rent). Is this rent (or half) going to be coming to you?
My H stayed in the house 15 months post bomb and to say that is was stressful for everyone, wouldn't really cover it. I will also say that as long as he was there, my D's (esp youngest, 12 at the time) thought we were really working on it. So, when he left....she said she felt like she'd lived on a razor blade for nothing.
I can also tell you that the girls didn't always act in character b/c they were trying to make him happy. <Sigh>.
I don't know that I really see an upside for the kids. How old are they? Sure, they get to stay in the same place and while that's all well and good, for how long? Does this skew their expectations for what's to come and are you misleading them in a way that will have them doubting their perceptions?
Make your own list of pro's and con's. I would also make that same list with reconciliation completely off the table. Why? How will you feel at some future point, if it doesn't work out between the two of you?
