W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Mr. Bond

What I think my flaws are may not be what my W thinks may be a true statement but I think I have a pretty good feel that they are. I will not send a message like that again to her but I do think these things are one of the major issues that she had with me.

I agree that I'm not trying to get her to focus on my flaws and I more than agree she is not perfect. She has a lot to work on and has been told by the various people she has visited with the same along with her counselor. She ever went to a psychiatrist that she claims cleared her even though I don't think she was forthright about everything nor did she keep her promise to take her mom with her to the appointments.

As far as the rules goes I went weeks without saying anything and trying the LRT with no real changes or reaction from my W although if I looked deeper I may have seen some positive signs but I can't think of them now if there were some. My W dropped the bomb and really has not made any changes in her path from her initial bomb. I think she has continued further decisions in reinforcing her decision. She has asked someone to store a washer and dryer, talked to a friend that is a real estate agent which is crazy, signed up for school like she is going own her own and needs to get a better job to support herself, continues to take stuff from our home and push away my family as well as hers. She avoids the elephant in the room even with her own family like there is nothing going on. She is trying to ignore the problem like it is going to go away or something. Everyone including me don't understand what she wants or what really bothers her. She has been a mystery for all and she knows her communication skills are horrible as she has admitted it. She says we have falling out love and then focuses on random negative things in the past to justify it and acts like we never had anything positive which is typical I know.

I get back to working on me and GALing. I will try to watch for signs of improvement from her as well. Man this roller coaster is fun.