XH and OW doing some CRAZY things - but guess what? I am having a BLAST with my kids, fam, and friends! And since you all are the first to hear all my sob stories - you will be the first to hear that I am FEELING better:) Big, big steps for me!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
IB, I'm glad you are feeling better. As for your xh and ow, they are living in a fantasy world and will do a lot of stupid and crazy things...remember...they think they are 18 once again. Once the euphoria dies down, they will begin to settle down and act like people who have grown up a bit. But, in the mean time, you are moving ahead and doing what you need to do to live your life.
IB, you are doing great!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Thanks guys! So, I "graduated" from divorce care class. I'm very glad I took the classes - I found them very helpful.
So, I've worked on the spiritual and emotional side of myself - now it's on to the physical! Plan is to add intellectual in the summer and FINALLY finish my doctorate! I've started and stopped 3 times! Each time the kids got busy - I stopped. Not this time:)
Also working on my finances. Don't know why I do a great job managing million dollar projects at work and yet balancing my own checkbook and budgeting home overwhelms me!
Moving forward...
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
IB, I'm glad the divorce care class was helpful. Just think...you've graduated and now can move on to something else, if you so desire. I'm glad to read that you are planning to finish your doctorate. Good for you!
The reason that you can manage million dollar projects at work is because your focus is on them and they are not of a personal nature. Your own checkbook is personal and it reminds you of what you've been through. It will get easier in time.
Continue moving forward....you are doing great!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Went out with new friends last night - had a blast! Today - college football game with S to watch daughter dance Tomorrow - kick off dinner for son's senior bb team Monday - back to work
Plenty in life to keep me going:) Hope everyone has a great weekend!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Home after a long day. Somewhat dreading tomorrow as I'm certain X will bring OW to son's kick off dinner. I've been thinking a bit lately about how very confused I am about my feelings regarding X. On the one hand, I am so disgusted and angered by his behaviors - especially with regards to OW. On the other hand, I so deeply wish for our family unit to be together. We do not co-parent so we really have no reason to interact. But I keep thinking of him in terms of how he "used to be" - and that is not who he is today.
As I look back through the archives of this site - I really believe the most profound and damaging trait exhibited by X is the "rewriting" of history. I am not making this up - we were a REALLY good couple. Friends, partners, lovers - we laughed together, supported each other. I just don't see how that disappears.
Oh well...just thinking.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
Made it through son's dinner. X came without OW. He just stayed away from everyone. He spoke briefly to oldest D who was there with her fiance. Told her he had plans with OW for Thanksgiving. Did not invite D (not that she would have gone). He has made it perfectly clear he has chosen someone else - not only over me, but also over his children. Another piece of evidence that he has lost his f'ng mind. My former BIL contacted me to express his concern about X - didn't understand his choices or see what X sees in OW. I said that I understood but I can't do anything about it. I'm just moving forward. The remaining 4 of us are not messed up - we are not broken. We are redefining our family.
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
IB, I'm glad everything went okay yesterday. I know you were dreading the ow being around. As for your bil....good for you for standing up and telling him about redfining your family.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
GOOD FOR YOU. You not only know it, you seem to truly FEEL it now. As for X BIL, it seems he was singing to the choir. What could you possibly do about it that you haven't already tried? A for effort, though. At least he admits his brother has flipped out.
