Oh dear, lc. You can't beat yourself up for a little slip. I mean my goodness, the woman had an A with your H. What on earth does he expect you to do? Reach out and give her a big old hug!
Of course you are going to have a reaction. Granted, you could have handled it better and perhaps simply expressed that seeing her stirred up some old feelings of hurt and that you needed a hug. I mean I would hope he understands that healing from an A is a process, and just because it still hurts, that doesn't mean you will throw it in his face every time you see her. It's obvious that by seeing her you are going to be reminded of the A and I don't think it would be unfair of you or unforgiving, if you came up with a plan on how to handle contact with her. Okay, losing it on him and getting angry was not the best decision but you will do better in the future. You are not perfect, but neither is he and I'm sure once he cools down, all will be well. Hang in there, lc. You are still doing really well.
From the lady who still gets a little upset over her H's A from time to time.
