Val, I actually thought that was DB'ing. You were kind and loving but you stood up for yourself. You don't have to validate her accusations, especially when you know you are committed to being a loving compassionate person and that your motives were pure. I think you handled that conversation with grace and love and you should be proud. I also wouldn't be surprised if someday, your W really takes a long hard look at her decisions and truly regrets her choices. Actually, I think that process might have already started.
