Too late?

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Thanks young at heart, your post made me want to cry (nothing new these days...but wanted you to know I appreciated all of your insights)

I have read 5 LLs and I think my husband's love languages are touch and positive words. I am trying both. I think he would also like racy text messages during the day, but he's doing that now with OW (and he knows I have seen those)...so it feels "fake" to me to do much of that. However, I have woven in a couple innuendos in my texts.

We haven't had sex for about 6 months now (about 2 months prior to his A...I believe he had potentially met OW when he stopped wtih me). When he comes home on the weekends, we do some things:

-we now sleep intertwined which he has noticed (didn't happen much before)

-I have been much more turned on by him and he has brought me to O with his hand (something that hadn't happened very often before). He commented one morning how much more turned on I have been.

-I wear very cute/sexy underwear and combined with the weight loss...I know he is noticing.

-Last week, I did a lap dance type thing over him while he laid in bed. He "enjoyed" that.

-I have told him a few affectionate things after we have these romantic "interludes"...but, once again, I feel like I need to tread lightly. We don't say ILY anymore.

Part of me feels like going a little crazier but I am worried it is too soon. For example, I could put on a more racy outfit or take out a toy.

The saddest thing for me is that I feel like right now if I asked him to tell me which of our past love making sessions was best...I think he would feel like saying "none of them...it's all been better with the OW". He's told me that his conversations with her are more intimate, she's more "athletic", and she matches his energy better. (from a big picture perspective, I'm not sure those things necessarily can carry a complicated marriage...but they all resonate as things that would be nice to have in the bedroom)

Sounds like it will be key for me to express my enjoyment with him (hoping we get back to that) and also working on opening up more.

Thanks!!!