What do I do next? Part 2

[Accuray]

I thought about doing the whole match.com thing, but the reality is my W is so out of my league (I was so lucky) that anybody else is not gonna be a fair comparison (I'm very visual).

That's low self-esteem talking. One of the things I read in "Passionate Marriage" is that we all choose a partner at the same level of "differentiation" as ourselves. Although that's a loaded term that you'd have to read his book to understand, it basically means that your W needed you as much as you needed your W, although you showed it in different ways, both functional and not.

I did not "do the whole match.com thing", and that's an important point -- I was a lurker for a brief while, and it DID help. There are many women out there in their mid 30's and early 40's looking for love a second time around, and as you read everywhere, it can be harder for women than for men to find love a second time. While your W may be stunning, that's definitely colored by your emotional attachment to her. The point of match is not to replace her, it's to help you to detach and to give space, by realizing you're not alone, and that options DO exist for you.

--Accuray