I know this is going to be hard, and I know I'm going to have those moments/days where I'm second guessing his promises to me, and whether or not he's talking to her secretly or not...but I know I can't let that derail me.
It's so difficult to feel like you're walking on eggshells with your H. I'm afraid if I say or ask anything about her, that he will feel pressured. I did ask him this morning if we were okay and still on the same page. It scared him when I said this because it was what I'd said to him right before our D11 and I left. He reassured me that they hadn't contacted each other via phone, text or email, and that the last time he talked to her was this past Friday as they were walking by each other at the office and she said, "Have a good weekend!!" and he said, "you too" and kept walking.
He calls me quite a bit throughout the day which he hadn't while he was talking to her. He's been more affectionate with me. He's been spending a lot of family time with the kids and I. It feels great, but he also had changed the password to our phone bill when I had left, and hasn't changed it back yet. I'm not sure how to ask him to do this, as it may make him feel like I don't trust him and may discourage him.
I had asked him Saturday when a good time to put my rings back on would be, and he said, "Baby steps love...baby steps." We aren't married, it's my engagement ring, but we've lived together 14 years, so we call each other H and W.
What do you guys think??
M:38, H:37, SS:17, D:12 ILYBINILWY: Aug. 2011 OW Discovered: Mid Aug. 2011 Piecing from Aug. - Oct.2011 I Moved out: Nov.2011 Moved back in piecing since: Nov. 5, 2011 H talking to OW again: May 15