Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

[BklynMom]

Do you have a IC? or a support group? I think this will help a lot with your DBing? I have 2 kids under 4 and cant imagine having a 3rd in the mix. If you can figure out some babysitting for you to go to IC, maybe in AD they will help with outbursts.

Being home alone with kids is the hardest job I have ever had and I have a lot of help. A woman I worked with said I should ask for H to pay for live in help to replace him as part of D. I thought she made a really good point. It is extremely hard what you are doing pshyically, mentally & emotionally. Give yourself a lot of credit. It doesnt sound like you have a lot of family near you so I know how hard it can be.

Give yourself credit you are doing an impossible job, raising 3 kids - your H (like mine) thinks he is 18.

Dont talk or text him unless ABSOLUTELY necessary. Just dont. A bill collector called my house regarding my H cell bill, I didnt tell him. I noticed a few days later (via our bank account) that he paid the bill. I do not initiate connect spontaneously I always wait a few days then decide if its ABSOLUTELY necessary.

GOOD LUC. You are doing great!! Hang in there