Snow, I've been reading your sitch.. but have never posted.
I agree with Mr. Bond about the letter. If you really look at it, it was really about you and no so much about w.
That is not attractive.
I'm so glad you are deciding to take the high road.. It is by far the better one to take.. however becareful with all decisions.
I remember when it was my w's b-day. I really wanted to contact her and thought at first I was taking the high road by wishing her happy bday even though I was hurting.
It was about me.
Instead, I didn't. She had clearly indicated that she didn't want me in her life so I took the high road and respected her wishes.
It didn't feel good for me.. it sukked honestly.. but it was the right thing to do.
I feel the same way about Christmas. I know I could buy my w presents w/o expectations... however the high road is to respect her wish to not spend Christmas with me at all.. so no gifts.
Remember.. if the high road felt good... everyone would do.. so if the decision isn't hurting you at all... you should probably look to see if it truly is the "high road".
My humble .02
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
