DB'ing is soooo hard!

[MrBond]

yes if you stick with the DBing, you will start to see improvement. Not in every sitch and in some cases it takes longer than others.

"How long did it take to reconcile and move on to a better M?"

This is not a guarantee and every case is different. Your W could still leave after all of this. However, in your case, the hug is a great sign. Write down the specifics of what your W did and what you have been doing. Not generalities. If things are feeling better, slowly (very slowly) start to do the little things for your W. Like get her something small like a cheap toy- "hey I saw this the other day and thought of you". Or slowly flirt with her.

Think back of all the things you've learned and start interacting more. Sounds like you're on the right track.