W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore.

[Snowman]

Well this is what I said to my W in an email today. What do you think?

Sorry for the person I had become. I have done a lot of self reflection with my counselor and my self and I’m not happy with the person I was, I complained a lot and was too controlling. I wanted to apologize for that and say I support you. I have learned what is most important to me and that is my family, both yours and mine.

I don’t want you to do things because the church or someone else wants you to. I want you to do something because you want to because it is important to you or whatever the reason is. That’s why I do things. Sorry I didn’t mean for this to be a long detailed email, just want to share my feelings that have been bouncing around in my head/heart this weekend.

She said back: I appreciate your apology and then requested something from the house for our son.

I have chosen to be happy today as I know it is my decision and the only thing I can control. I'm not sure where things are going in my stitch but I know that I will be happy because I want to be. I want to take the higher road because thats who I am and who I want to be. Being angry or sad does me no good and has no affect on my WAW so why be angry.

What do people think about buying Christmas presents for my W in this situation? My take is that I want to take the higher road again and have no expectations for reciprication. I know it will make me feel good which I think is all that really matters.