Hello Tel, When my w and i went to mediator, when we finished I don't think either of us was in the mood to have dinner, even though the experience was probably much less severe than seeing a divorce l(even though in my state, most mediators are L). That doesnt mean that you might not feel like having dinner afterwards, if you do, you can just tell her that you changed your plans and can do dinner. IMHO, you don't have to tell her ahead of time, that would look to needy, but you can ask her as you are leaving the mediator's office, it could look like a spur of the moment thing, which, if you have not been known to be a spur of the moment type guy, could be a real 180 for you.
Just my 2 cents,either way, good luck
m 54 XW 48 m 12 t 14 bomb 6-11 s 10-11 wife moved to other state 10-21-11 d 9-12
O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!
there is going to be a lot of women who would love to have a man like you in their lives.
But I want one NOW...
OK, not really.
Well, maybe just a little...
A date for New Year's would be nice...
No doubts here that when you're ready to take that step, you will have no trouble filling your dance card, TM. I have a feeling 2012 is going to be a great year for you.
No doubts here that when you're ready to take that step, you will have no trouble filling your dance card, TM. I have a feeling 2012 is going to be a great year for you.
love and hugs, lc4
From your lips to God's ear, darlin', because 2011 sure sucked.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
I haven't posted in awhile but do think about many of you often and you're one of them, Telemark. I absolutely agree that better things are waiting for you.
I haven't posted in awhile but do think about many of you often and you're one of them, Telemark. I absolutely agree that better things are waiting for you.
((()))
Thanks, E. How are you holding up? Haven't seen you in these parts for a while.
H 56 W 48 D27,S21 SS25 SS22 Severely autistic M(#2 for both) 9 1/2 yrs. "I've never loved you" 3/7/2011 Separated 8/7/2011 BITS
Yes, I've been taking bit of a break from the boards but haven't forgotten about you all and still read everyone's threads from time to time. I was sorry to read about your wife's PA. She is heading down a path of misery and will regret her choices someday.
Anyway, things are going really well over here. Although, I can't say recovering after my H's A has been easy, or anything I thought I'd even consider forgiving, but I've made the decision to open my heart and mind and consider the circumstances. We are still attending our Retrovaille post-sessions and are both committed to the process. We have been spending a lot of time together and my H is incredibly loving and affectionate towards me. In many ways our M and our bond is stronger than it was in the few years prior to the bomb (or in my case, bombs).
And my H has expressed many times that he is very grateful for a second chance because he thinks that deep down he's a good man who got lost by his hurt and anger and did and said some horrible things but in the end, that did not define who he truly was...
I should probably start my own thread though.
Hang in there, Telemark. Your future is going to be amazing.
