Hello Tel,
When my w and i went to mediator, when we finished I don't think either of us was in the mood to have dinner, even though the experience was probably much less severe than seeing a divorce l(even though in my state, most mediators are L). That doesnt mean that you might not feel like having dinner afterwards, if you do, you can just tell her that you changed your plans and can do dinner. IMHO, you don't have to tell her ahead of time, that would look to needy, but you can ask her as you are leaving the mediator's office, it could look like a spur of the moment thing, which, if you have not been known to be a spur of the moment type guy, could be a real 180 for you.

Just my 2 cents,either way, good luck

m 54
XW 48
m 12
t 14
bomb 6-11
s 10-11
wife moved to other state 10-21-11
d 9-12

O GOD THY SEA IS SO GREAT AND MY BOAT IS SO SMALL!