What do I do next? Part 2

[luvhurts49]

When you confronted W, what did you say, and what did you not say?

When I confronted my W, I simply told her that value our marriage and although we have had difficult times in the past, we've always found ways to get through them. That I was tired of the games and the lies. That I know about OM and how she betrayed our trust. That I still wish to work on our M, but I will not share her heart with another man.

What did you ask, and what did you not ask?

I did not ask her any questions. I did not ask when the A started.

Did she ask you anything other than "how do you know?"

Not really.

Did you ask W about the requested meeting with your dad?

I never even brought it up.

Did you discuss parenting, what she's been saying to the kids, and what you have not been saying to the kids?

Nope. I wasn't in the mood to say anything other that what I had to say (confronting her about OM).

I know I am a "fixer", but it is impossible for me to do nothing to "fix" this situation. I keep waiting for someone to give me another answer that I like and not one that keeps me sad all the time. I can act like I'm happy, but it's just a show and I think everyone knows it. I can't handle just sitting around and waiting for her when it likely won't ever happen.

It's apparent that she is enthralled with her new man and there isn't anything more that I would like to do than squash him, but I know I can't do that for the sake of my kids. My W is so completely detached from me and shows me nothing but anger. It hurts just to think about it.