OK, I completely get where you are coming from. And I don't necessarily disagree. BUT, lets just assume for the sake of argument that your H is hoping that YOU make the first move. Now why would you want to play into his hand? Wouldn't that be pursuit?

OK, so you call your H, the kids speak to him for some time. Then what? What if he chooses to go dark again after that. Then what are you going to do?

Yes, he is leaving you not the kids but how do you really see an exchange with your H playing out after him being absent for over a week? Can you make your husband be present or is it something he has to choose to do?

I'm just posing the question to get you to think this through.

Whatever decision you ultimately make will be the right decision for you.

Wishing you all the best!

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