I shouldn't even say anything b/c I have not experienced this in my M, but I've had two people, (who are as close as family can get), to be abused by their H's.
My advice is to get out now!This is not a M issue.....it's a safety issue! Take your child and get away from the abuser before it's too late. Your child is not only learning early lessons on how to abuse his W some day....but for now, he's not safe! You're not safe!
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I'm wondering...if he ever decides he wants to change (which, he still hasn't, but IF), what can he do that will help? I can't find any abuse programs that are local to us. Has anyone had experience with this? Is there hope?
If he ever reaches that place that he really wants to change, then his next step is to be willing. Two separate things. I don't think it's going to happen as long as he can control you and the child. Once he's lost everything due to his anger, then and only then will he be "willing" to change. Then he'll find the help. You won't have to do it for him.
I didn't want to be the first to say it but I agree. This is a safety issue. It's time to protect your child and yourself.
Whatever you choose to do, use this forum to your benefit. Share your feelings, journal, complain, cry...whatever you have to do to release. We are here for you.
