Sounds like you did a little backsliding - "She asked what I wanted, and I said to work on the M. W said - it's too late for that, I'm done and have been for a long time."
Your W already knows that you wanted to work on the M. So why repeat it?
That last part in her response is such a scripted line, don't you think? I mean, I'm pretty certain that my W said exactly the same thing! It is almost predictable what they are going to say.
It must be gut wrenching for you to have to deal with this. But, as long as you still believe that your M is worth fighting for, then you should continue to do those things that help and avoid those things that harm.
From what I understand about D, things could drag out for several months and even longer if you slow-roll the process. Maybe that could be your approach as you continue to work on your changes.
Hang in there. We're here for you!
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