If my father had abused me, then I'm sure I would have a big problem being told to "submit" to my H. (Actually, I had a problem with that word, anyhow. I was very relieved when I found out that the better translation of the Greek word was really "respect".) I can also understand why your W would try to control her surroundings and anything in her life. It could be rather scary for her when she started feeling control taken away from her. All of that can be related to her childhood experiences.
Anniversary gift.....maybe a little sentimental one. Let me think about it. Did you have anything in mind?
But definetely no letter!! That will ruin everything!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
