I have been getting through much of the reading Cadet posted above, it is very googood, if you're on the forum and reading this, make note of every thing above there's lots of wisdom there.
Here's a question. It's amazing to me how much my W isn't herself. The irrational behaviour is quite mind boggling and hard to accept for someone I've known for 24+ years. Has anyone here ever experienced anyone going through this to "snap out of it" and begin working through things sooner than letting it run its course?
We went through dealing with an alcoholic brother. It was horrible and there was much irrationality there. My mother's therapist gave us some good advise: You cannot rationalize irrational behavior, don't try. With my W, it has helped going dim, but I'm realizing that it's extremely difficult, especially given the needed daily interaction around the kids. That's another topic.
DB'ing helps bring some of the rationality back, especially within yourself, but I have to admit I'm hoping for something a bit more miraculous.
