Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

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I think my H is completely out of his mind...

Two things happened today that totally shocked me.

1) While at the beach, H brought up the Xmas holidays. I am taking the kids with me to Mexico (we go there every other year for 2 weeks and he had agreed that I could do so this year as well using our accumulated credit card points.) I had invited him to come with us with absolutely zero expectations - more as a courtesy, since I was using the points.

So today he asked me if I had used all the points (he knew I had cause I had told him about it by email). He then complained that it was a lot of points and that he was bummed I used them all cause he was thinking of getting a tix for himself. (never mind that he had already used some of those points to take OW on a sunset cruise and helicopter ride for her birthday a month ago...)

At first I thought he wanted points to buy tix to go see OW, but I soon realized he was referring to getting a tix to come with us. It was a bit passive-agressive of him to approach this as a complaint, but I didn't bite. I didn't get upset and told him that if he wanted to come with us, we should try to find a way of buying a tix and that he should be with his kids for the holidays if he wanted to...

Why am I shocked? He just asked for the D and he must know that my family is NOT happy with our sitch. Nobody in my family would ever be mean or rude to him. Everyone adores him and we all have manners and when anyone sees him at my place, they are always polite and pleasant. But that doesn't mean they agree with his leaving us (specially when I was pregnant).

How would he even consider going down to my country, with ALL my family for the holidays is really surprising, but if he wants to do it, I am not going to recant my invitation.

I doubt he will go thru with it, and will not get my hopes up, but I was suprised that he is considering it, even though I know how much he will miss the kids...