Finally confronted H on affair...Now what????

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Sunday...

Another good day with H. It occurred to me to do something different. Since he complained on Sat. night about me not bringing some items for the kids, I decided to stop by and bring them over on Sunday morning to show him that I listened to him and wanted to cooperate with him.

So I took a shower, dressed in a pretty skirt and blouse and stopped by. He seemed a bit surprised and thanked me for bringing those items. I was smiling and very friendly. I interacted with the girls and then told him it was a beautiful day outside. (it really was).

I told him it was a great morning for a walk at the beach and he said that sounded like a good idea. I was a bit surprised he accepted the invite (he has always been open to hanging out as a family, but lately he has really been trying to detach from me), specially since he brought up the D two days ago.

We hung out with kids for a while and then got them ready and went to the beach. We then had lunch together. When it was all said and done, we hung out from 9 - 3pm.

All the time, I was very upbeat, smiled a lot and listened and validated a lot. He actually was very talkative. Told me about his work convention and was careful not to mention OW, although we both know that she was involved in all his activities. I listened carefully, looked in the eye and kept the conversation going.

He also told me about a book he is beginning to write on customer service and I asked questions about it. He mentioned still writing some poetry. I know he shares his poems with OW and has only shared one with me a few months ago, but never really discussed it with me.

So I brought it up today and asked him about it. I could immediately tell that he was trying to downplay his sharing it, almost like he regretted it and he got uncomfortable so I immediately dropped the subject.

All in all, it was a great family day. We did not have one bad exchange or disagreement. He texted with OW on a few occasions, but as my DB coach suggested, I pretended that he was checking game scores...

When I left, I thanked him for hanging out and told him I had fun. He said he had fun as well.