My husband ended up coming home for dinner; the kids and I were thrilled. Things are a bit cool between us; I've reached out a few times in conversation and with physical touch, and while he hasn't ignored me, he certainly didn't respond in kind. I understand he's still a little bitter, but I have great hope that he'll ease up over the next few days. He appears to be staying the night (he's currently watching tv in another room, and it's midnight here, so I don't expect him to be going anywhere).
I've certainly learned my lesson that in order to move forward with our marriage, ow must remain in the past at all times...forever. I have done very well in practicing forgiveness but was simply caught off guard when my family and I saw her. I allowed negative feelings to overwhelm me. I have regained my strength and grace, and I plan to work hard to avoid any additional backsliding.
I have caught up on all your sitches here and there over the weekend and have some responding and hugging to do. Thanks again for all of your support and advice!