A fork in the road - EA admitted by wife

[NYCPeter]

Ok folks - big day and I don't mean in a positive way.

W did not come home until 5:00am - I said nothing (pretended to be asleep when she came in).

W was away for most of the day (with her parents) - I spent time with the girls playing outside (beautiful day).

When she came back - her parents took the girls for dinner and my W said she wanted to chat.

W said she is filing next week.

She won't change her mind - her mind is made up and she wanted to be fair about it. Her parents will help with the house and she wants me to give up the equity in the house and I keep the 401k (pretty much a wash).

She wants standard CS and a small amount per month in alimony.
She obviously had all the numbers verified by a L and had discussed everything with her parents.

She wants to go through a mediator rather than L's.

She kept prompting me for a reaction and my response - "Thanks for letting me know". W said - "don't you have anything else to say". I said not at this time.

I went for a drive to clear my head - W is now putting the girls to bed. I'm sure she'll raise it tonight - I'll not take the bait and just validate anything she says.

Do I want to save my M - yes.
Do I want to be with someone who quite clearly doesn't want to be with me and is having an A - No.

I'm beginning to think D isn't such a bad idea,