Confronted spouse...now he wont come home

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H left this morning...yesterday was ok...he is acting a bit more normal around the house and being nice to me. However, it feels like there is a huge cloud hanging over us.

Does anyone else have a perspective on the H going silent about the affair? I am not trying to overanalyze (done enough of that) but my guess is that he believes it hurts my feelings to talk about it so he doesn't.

The reason I ask is because at church today (GAL/180!) the pastor talked about the power of calling things as you see them and not letting people get away with things. He gave the example of a difficult person who only had one person tell them they weren't treating people well. On that difficult person's death bed, that one person was the person who had meant the most of them in their life. Just made me think. I do feel like I'm seeing some baby steps back to the M by H...but he also hasn't reacted too badly to R talks...so part of me feels like I should try to talk to him again this week.

I guess my goal would be to let him know I have hope for our marriage and I'd like to start working on it. I do want to know what he needs to make him happy.

Also, I have been reading the 5 LL book...I think H's love languages are words of affirmation and touching...so tried to do more of both this weekend.