Sl, It's nice to meet a fellow INFJ. I don't have kids, so can't related to family leadership from that perspective, but understand the struggles an strengths of being an INFJ in a M. I'll post when I have something to offer.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."