I spent all night with XW..........on the phone

[AntoniaB]

She has said that line before or one awfully close to it...it doesn't strike me as evidence she has been reading here.

If she was, I think I'd feel pretty confident in predicting that she would then start to use THIS BOARD as the reason there is no chance. I can hear it now: "if you hadn't talked to other people about our sitch, there'd be a chance." Or "I was going to think about trying to work it out till I read that someone on that board called me crazy."

ALL MLCer lack one thing: COURAGE. They cannot just do what they do and accept that they did it. They have to claim that something else or someone else made them do it. They don't have the courage to stand up for themselves and their actions without acting like something forced their hand.

Even though the divorce is over, she's still laying the script out to you every time she gets access. She won't stop until you stop her from doing it.

You have to make major changes in cutting her out of your life as much as humanly possible or nothing will ever change for you.