After my W moved out, I miraculously met a wonderful woman that I am planning to spend the rest of my life with.
Congratulations! I have thought about this and wonder if I'd be extremely gun-shy about getting married a second time. How did you look at it?
Based on everything you read about second marriage challenges and the fact that we bring our own unaddressed issues forward, how did you get to a place to commit to this new woman?
Is she like your ex, 180 degrees different, somewhere in the middle?
My W no longer has contact with OM, he shut her out to save his own M. That said, I had the misfortune of reading their communications, and she gave him a level of passion and affection that I have never seen.
I was much happier with the illusion that she wasn't capable of it. Now that I know the potential is there, it makes it difficult to go on without it.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
