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This is not to mean that there weren't things there that I did or didn't do to perhaps further influence her decision. I will still pinpoint and work on those things for myself, if anybody. I'm just saying that I believe that this passion deficit was the biggest problem for my W and the one that made her feel that she had to run away.

Seems to me that THIS is something worth exploring at a much deeper level. If your W is complaining about a lack of passion in her life, perhaps you should be trying to figure out what YOU need to do to getting that back. Time will tell if you will be allowed to explore this area with your W, but you certainly should be working on that for yourself since it appears to be a big part of why your W felt the need to go elsewhere.

I believe that she could have worked harder on restoring passion in us rather than seeking it in somebody else. I saw almost no effort on her part when it came to that.

Why if your W complains about the lack of passion in your life must she be the one to work harder? It sounds to me like it was a plea for help and it went unanswered. You know at some point someone needs to take the lead on resolving problems. If it wasn't going to be your W, then why not you?

Just asking...