Had a crazy-busy day of work today, but it went by really quickly. One of the people supporting us was a girl that I met not too long before my sitch happened. I connected with her because her sitch echoes mine (although she only knows about the S and the eventual D, not the A).
Her husband left her and had an A, even though he denied it(his phone logs told a different story). About a month back, she told me that she had met someone new who treated her "a hundred times better" than her ex-husband, who she's in the process of D-ing. He has been trying to get her back to no avail. I admit, the times that I talk about this stuff with this girl, I have wondered if I will find myself in her shoes not too long from now.
After work, I made it to two different NaNoWriMo write-ins. One was at the library. I only made the tail-end of it because I was returning some movies I had checked out. Inside, I met up with a long-time friend of my W's who also does NaNo. It was good to hear from her because we always got along pretty well. It's a little awkward, especially since her family is close friends with my in-laws, so I'm pretty sure that she knows about the A. In any case, she was still very nice to me. I will likely run into her at several more write-ins.
I went to a second write-in at a Starbucks that went on into the evening. It was a lot of fun! I will admit that most of them were of a far nerdier stock than I am, but they were very welcoming and friendly people. This also marks the most social thing I've done besides hanging out with my family. I'm looking forward to carving out even more opportunities in the days to come. (I have two more write-ins that I'm planning on going to in the next week alone. Success!)
During my walk to my car, I reflected on my R with my W. As I've said before, my W felt very insecure about the "bad thoughts" that I had about other women in comparison to her, so she would often forbid me to talk to certain women who I found to be attractive, sometimes even pushing me to avoid these women entirely. This obviously curtailed my ability to socialize in college, which made me feel like I missed out on one of the most important parts of the college experience. She blamed her reactions entirely on me and my "choice" to not control my thoughts. I know that I definitely didn't help things, but I'm starting to see these reactions as very over-the-top on her part.
On a side-note, I chose earlier today to change my privacy status on FB to Friends Only -- which means my W can't view my status updates or photos. Given how hard she's been trying to keep tabs on my life in the past few months, I wouldn't put it past her to check my FB every once in a while. One more element of mystery for me. (Also, I will proudly state that I have not checked my W's FB for over a month. Go me.)
