Cadet, I haven't written anything on here that is untrue. So like you said, so what. The only thing is....she will see everyone on here telling me how absolutely batchit crazy she is. I may contact you on the alt. I will see what happens.
Seeking, to answer your question: many months ago when this all started she said that she had seen the website I was talking about that explained the 6 stages of MLC. I really didn't think anything of it then. On Thursday night I posted on here:
Also, everytime she would say something to give me hope, she would say somthing to shoot it down. Or....she would say something to shoot me down and then say something to give me hope.
On Friday, we had the following text exchange:
M: I will be a little late picking up S16 on Sunday.
W: Like when exactly?
M: 7:00-7:30
W: Why?
M: Work.
W: On Sunday?
M: Yeah. Overtime as we get ready for the holidays.
She then proceeded to tell me what a piece of work that I was and accused me of playing mind games and lying to her all of the time.
Then she sends the following: [b]I want to be CLEAR, there is no future hope for us, nor have I said anything to make you think that.
It could just be a coincidence, but who knows?
My God she is so mean.[/b]
Tad
she's clear in her way, Tad. She's batchit crazy and possessive and has the gall to demand she not be replaced
as if her voluntary absence from the home and her sons should cost her nothing.
SHE "quit that job," so she has some nerve telling you to keep the vacancy open, indefinitely, in case she wants back in...(Oh BUT WAIT, NO she does NOT want back in and never will and never gave you any reason to think she would...)
I hope she DOES read this site. I'd like to meet her...in person...if I were armed...
Seriously though, Tad, what would it take for YOU to "get" into your head that this woman
is nowhere near ready for ANY healthy r's with ANY man?
Do you get that now?? What would it take to convince you?
I hope you are getting to the point where your answer is,
"I get it. I see it. I can face it now and she is a lost soul. And not my problem, not my fault, not my responsibility."
Tad you only have one life. Maybe your w will get healthy and kind some day. Maybe reality won't force her to collapse and she'll face the path of destruction she has wreaked upon others
and maybe she'll be able to forgive herself
and maybe she'll move forward...but until IF and WHEN that happens -know
There ARE women out there who are smart, rational, loving and kind. Why slog through eternity waiting for this EX wife to NOT get it,
when you can move forward with a woman who's healthy enough to give and receive love?
It's possible your w will wake up when SHE realizes that's true...but why wait and hope for that? Go with what IS...
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
