Thank you so much for your concern & clear concise advice. I should be home before the holidays, and my wife has agreed not move forward with anything until after the holiday season. I recognize now that I have been dealing with depression/anxiety for my entire life.... just the stresses of the last few years made it harder to keep hidden. My wife said that she hasn't felt validated or respected - also my mood swings scared her(Please believe me-I have never ,nor ever would threaten or harm my loved ones)...The mood swings made me unpredictable. I have always been a great Dad, spending time & lavishing my two children 14,12 with attention. Even while deployed, I speak with them nearly everyday, skype, email, send packages to them. The 180 will be my new "bible". I'm 43, in fantastic shape,good-looking,educated, fairly successful... I'm going to try my best to show my wife that i CAN move forward...grad school, yoga etc Hopefully she will see this...either way, I'll be a better person. I'm terrified also by the 180- by agreeing with her, I'm afraid the divorce will move swiftly, and she will move on. I love and adore her & the loss would be unbearable.
