One thing to be aware of is that you are on moderation so your posts won't show up until the moderator approves them. This is temporary, but often throws newcomers for a loop.
I'm very sorry to hear about your situation, although you do have 2 big positives, one is that there is no OM and the other is that your W still believes she loves you.
Please read Divorce Busting and The Divorce Remedy as soon as you can, they will help. Also, it may be useful to make it clear to your wife that you don't want your old relationship back either. Often our spouses think that staying with us is going back to how things were.
For most people, it's a bad idea to talk about the relationship at all at this point, but for you, it may be helpful to explain what you want going forward, what you've realized about yourself, and how you plan to change. Make it clear you're not looking for an agreement or a discussion from W at this point, tell her you will demonstrate any changes you make with action.
You can save your marriage, but it will be a lot of work, and you need to be prepared to do all of it, without expectations. You are in for a marathon, not a sprint, so set your frame of mind appropriately.
Welcome to the board!
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
