lc4, this probably isn't the first time this going to happen. I would think it's likely you're going to Probably with each subsequent time, it won't be as bad. You're right - this isn't your first rodeo. I think you know the pattern - he'll be back. At that point, y'all can re-group and move forward.
IMVHO, pointing out to him that he's crossed the boundary isn't going to help your efforts too much. Just keep the road back paved and smooth. You have extended the invitation for forgiveness and it's up to your H to give himself that gift. I think it's OK to discuss it further if it's warranted and y'all can have a healthy discussion on the topic.
