one last thing I would hope to share with you itm,
if his deal with ow is a sort of '13th.-step rendezvous' type thing, the whole structure of that 'relationship' is based on a compromised foundation. It's based on the shifting sands of a moral conflict.. temporarily at someone else's expense.
If I'm anywhere near target.. [and I'd rather be wrong, but..] then, hopefully you will gain a certain objectivity about his behavior.
Please suffer me just a little longer in order to share an example of what I'm trying to say.
A very dear friend of mine died in July of '07 from an apparent alcohol/narcotic toxicity. A year or two prior to his death, we were talking on the phone. He said something like, "Man you know me, I wouldn't be married to a junkie woman if I weren't such a da-- junkie myself."
We didn't talk about it much in later years; but I knew he never really got over his first wife..
he died ostracized by the fairly affluent family of his second wife.. they changed his only son's last name and successfully estranged the boy from his father.. permanently.
more often than than what a person might think, an addict is hated by both himself, and the people who once said, "I love you".. to his grave
He was a guy that children and dogs and old people [and when we were young, women] loved. I kid you not.
