I do realize the lack of sex is not the issue, but the result.
The headaches, tiredness is all a bad excuse. That's all they are excuses. I am tired after work, but I still do the dishes, etc.....If she was soooo tired after work...she would go to bed. Does she? No...she'll sit up and watch tv till 11pm.
I am here because I want to fix this versus divorce, have an affair/hire a hooker, or jerk off and quit bitching.
As for the passive aggressive stuff....at this point...NOTHING is working.
I am composing by B@#$/complaint list
I work 40 hours a week...she works 60 I take care of the kids 2hrs a day SOLO . 10hours a week....21 when she works saturdays.
Houscleaning, dishes, etc is 100% me. Diner She will actually cook once or twice a week. Same with me...takeout the rest.
The household chores she does, is her laundry and the kids. (I will mess it up) Funny my clothes come out fine.
She asks me for something...2 or three times a day. Can you open this, Let's all go to Walmart......I do all this stuff like a good little husband and when I try anything sexual, I get shot down immediately. Really? SO what is the point of trying at the moment?
I am not a husband or partner to her. This marriage is not 50/50...90/10 with me doing 90% and thats being generious.
She could come home to a clean house, kids asleep, dinner on the table, I could rub her feet, give her a 6 hour massage and she'd still tell me to sleep on the couch.
The signal she is sending is she wants
#1 a babysitter/nanny for her kids. #2 a maid to clean her house #3 a yardman to do the yardwork. #4 a roomate to spilt the bills.
She has clearly indicated she does not want #1 an equal partner #2 any asssemblance of a husband
She has clearly stated that she #1 has no desire want or need for intimacy or sex(at least not with me) #2 Has no caring or feeling for me whatsoever.
In all honesty....If we had NO kids I would have divorced her long ago! I was married and divorced once before. 1st wife cheated on me and married the guy. Having to live without my first kid and the pain it caused IS the primo factor in trying to save marriage #2. I have 2 kids with wife 2.
I am not happy, angry, and resentful. I do not want to live like this. I am glad I can vent here because it falls on deaf ears elsewhere.
