Wow Tad. KML's ability to translate the language barrier between MLCer and LBS is exemplary. Listen to him, and maybe it will help you not to feel so lost in the storm.
first of all don't beat yourself up for getting sucked back in, ok? Guess what? It happens! After the things she said, I would've gotten sucked in too!
You still love this woman, and you have compassion for the maximum confusion she's going throuugh. You wish to express that to her, at the same time you must protect yourself. At the same time you're legally divorced, and have been working towards moving forward with your own life. As your trying to do this, then BOOM she pulls that!
I agree with KML. Move forward, but keep the door ajar.... if you wish to. Ok, the worst is over, you are legally divorced. However a piece of paper and legalities don't sever the emotional and mental ties that still bind you. 26 years of marriage and 4 children is serious history.
I agree that she needs to be in a much better place, in acceptance of what her actions have done to everyone around her, before she'd be ready to go to counseling. I would hope counseling could help her make it to the finish line of MLC.
Take Care. Be as strong as you can. And when you can't we're still here.
