Thanks Antonia.. really good insight there and I like the quote "Are you going to practice peace, or are you going to go to war?" I might have to check out the Four Agreements.
It's interesting because, when I decided to stay by his side after finding out about his EA, I never felt like a doormat. But now I do. I realize I just need to process this anger...
H was teary eyed yesterday. Something happened that caught me off guard. I was really tired and I laid down to nap and he was talking to me. I rolled over with my back to him and he stopped talking... and I said, "I'm sorry, I'm just hurting on the other side and had to switch" and he said, "Oh okay" and I said, "Please keep talking" and all the sudden he was in tears and said "I thought maybe you were mad and didn't care"
Not sure where that came from, but he is having a lot of emotions coming up to the surface.
We actually had a good R talk that he initiated. He said that at one point last summer, he just wanted to go back to his early 20's again, and that because he couldn't he felt angry ... and resentful that he was running out of time.
We talked about people who were older than him and I who have made great accomplishments in their age. I think this encouraged him somehow. I find myself having to be careful of what I say .... as he seems to take much to heart lately.
