Good advice BklynMom! She has had trouble maintaining friendships and I know that bothers her a lot.

A couple years ago she started going to church out of the blue and taking the kids with her. We had never gone to church from the time we met. She's since become passionate about the community aspects of it and has take an active role.

Initially I tried going with her but it really wasn't for me, and I would grumble about the financial and time commitments she was making. I stopped going and would spend the time doing my own thing.

Since "the bomb", I've tried going back with an open mind, and trying to be supportive. My IC told me to stop going because now I'm not doing enough for myself, and I could use that time for me. Based on your advice, I think I'm going to disregard that and keep going!

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015