How 2 balance detaching & improving communication?

[workinghardguy]

Listen to 30% of what they say and only half of what they do... rinse, repeat.

Of course she is going to say these things. The only other option is to say she is seeing changes, that she is feeling different, and most significantly that she may have made a bad decision and made a mistake

That last phrase is pretty critical. Do not expect her to come out and even get close to saying this. Not yet at least... and not for quite some time.