Never thought I would be the one to file

[BklynMom]

I know how you feel. The beautiful picture of a family with a mom & dad. That was the dream.

You know you will be fine. That you can manage somehow but what about your children. How can your H not want to give them the picture you envision of a family!?

It sounds like you understand what must be done legally & financially "for the kids" but it aint easy. You should feel bad about this. Your H is the one acting weird not feeling that bad about it and going on a nice vaca.

I think you can deal with these difficult legal & financial matters in a way which you protect yourself & your kids but are also not being aggressive towards H.

I think if you are graceful and slow moving with the process, thinking carefully how to take each step you can leave the door open a crack for H. Use this crisis to show yourself how cool you can be under pressure.

This is kind of corny but sometimes I pretend like I am in a movie before I see my H. And I act as if I am a sophisticated female star and nothing can get me to crack.

Hang in there. It will get better