wife won't admit PA with OM

[MrBond]

Sure she feels justified in doing so, and he seems to have owned up to everything he's done wrong.

However, a R is a two way street. I'm sure there were times when she wasn't perfect. It's natural for the LBS to experience low self-esteem and feel like their "not good enough" for the WAS.

The problem is that with that negative self-talk the LBS starts thinking it was ALL their fault. You've fessed up to everything you've contributed to your marital problems and are taking steps to correct it. It does not make you unworthy of your W.