seeking answers and Albequerque are, imo, spot on.
No way does your w want any MC let alone Retroavaille--which is a weekend workshop/retreat about repairing the marriage. And which requires commitment and NO OPs at all...at all....
She owns NONE of the problems, still blames you AND you still grovelled and begged to massage her forehead "if only you were there"....
you both still re-enter the same old dynamic so fast it's hard for me to see the growth she mentioned but I can see why she'd think you have not changed.
And she has not changed.
So why would you two talk about reconciling?
OH WAIT, YOU TWO ARE NOT TALKING ABOUT IT, YOU ARE...just you...
b/c you had ONE conversation that didn't end in a fight but began with one AND contained lots of negatives yet you claim that it was "also nice"....
I feel like I am watching someone who was 2/3 of t he way to the top of the mountain, just fall backwards all the way to the bottom again.
Am I missing something? Where is the positive in her calling him?
IT's all her confusion and spewing and then backtracking b/c HER life isn't so hot.
ANd the "no mother replacement" means HE CANNOT DATE b/c SHE won't allow it
and Tad agreed....(I'm slapping my forehead.)
SHE LEFT her sons and her home, so there is no mother to replace. THe mother left long ago.
And she's nutty and negative.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
