I was grumpy the night before leaving because I wasn't getting my way: i.e. reconciliation.
That sounds pretty childish when you put it on paper, doesn't it? Would you say that is an old behavior of yours? I know I don't like to be around a grumpy person. In DB, we learn to be the type of person people like to be around. I love being with a fun person, don't you? I bet your W does too. I can tell you this much....you would get a lot futher by being fun than you will otherwise.
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I just want to go back and be with them and try to fix things.
I don't think you would. I think you'd go back home and have a "talk" with her, thinking that was "fixing things" and when she wouldn't respond like you expected....you'd get grumpy again. You know how I know? B/c it'll be two months next week since the bomb, and you could have "shown" her how she could be happier being with you. You could have shown her that you are the better option. But you didn't. You've had two months....and you didn't. And, that's why she can't see it would be better to stay together.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
