after I read your whole post I still don't get it. Your fear of "Losing him"
(as if you still have him), seems to be bothering you more than his dumping the kids and most of their bills on you... Besides, if you two divorce, it will not happen b/c you filed, but b/c it was going to happen anyhow.
and Remember, it's Not your money to give away; it's theirs. Don't take it from your mom.
As for alimony, you'd be surprised how much you may need it. You can always return it if you want, but your L is right, get leverage.
And stop feeling guilty if the only way to get the FULL benefits to which YOUR CHILDREN are entitled, was to file.
Was there another way or not?
Let's say for the sake of argument that there wasn't...then no more guilt and no more second guessing or it'll mean your "need" for him outweighs the kids' real needs. NOT Fair to them.
And if there was another way to get the money without filing for div
then tell the L to do THAT and retract the div petition....
there, no more conflict.
I'm saying, put the kids FIRST and you should have no regrets...no healthy ones anyhow...
there...no more confli
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
