I think that when you come from a place of doing what is best for the children, you can't go wrong. If you are struggling financially, then your children are struggling as well and your H needs to step up. If he won't do it willingly, then it is your obligation to take action.

So stop beating yourself up for this. Maybe it is the wake-up call your H needs to get his rear end in gear.

Hang in there!

Me51 W53 S17 S14
M22 T25
Bomb-9/11; A-11/11; I move out 11/11

It's easy to find our bottom, it is our top that requires cultivation.

Every rough spot adds to our emotional constitution. -Barney Fife