new to this..

[workinghardguy]

Only listen to 30% of what they say and take notice of half of what they do.

before we actually started talking rationally

Ergo... dismiss it, ignore it, it was said in the heat of battle and from a place designed to hurt you.

During one fight my W told me "if it wasn't for the kids I'd already be out of here." Maybe true, maybe not. I've let it go because a) it was said in the heat of battle and designed to hurt me and b) it doesn't matter... for whatever reason she is here still just as your husband returned for whatever reason he returned.

Don't rehash the past... it can't be relived or revised.