Originally Posted By: MynameisMZ
These existential dichotomies always fascinate me. The very thing I needed, I prevented him from .... [/u]


Bingo. But, of course, from the other side it was my responsibility to set boundaries and speak up before becoming exhuasted and resentful.

Wasn't really a problem for me until kids came along. Something about this period of time pulled the rug out from under me.

Sounds like you're making some big changes. I bet (hope) your H appreciates them!