Putting it back together, but SSM issues linger

[Accuray]

In a million or more words, I guess I've been thinking, is there something your W has been angry about that she doesn't even know about? That's hampering her interest in ML as well as other acts of emotional caring.

Yes, although I don't believe I'm the root of that anger, I think that goes way back. She does have a hair trigger on some days, and often her reaction to the kids is out of proportion to the offense. I realize that unpredictability in a parent is not a good thing for kids, but it's not so bad that I think it's really causing issues, it's fairly rare.

She knows she's got issues, but she's not willing to address them. She says she's satisfied with the way she copes, and it's not worth the pain to dig down, I don't believe she thinks its fixable, or if it is, it's not worth the effort.

The the spirit of DB, the question is what do I *do* about it? Is it OK to have R talks now that we're on a good path to reconciliation, or is that still to be avoided? The DR gives you a seven step program to get back from the brink, but once you hit the starting line to reconciliation, it's uncharted territory. Glad to be here, what do I do next?

Thanks,

Accuray