Does your W see a T or has she tried AD? I know its hard to suggest these things when you are trying to put things back together but those things may help.
No, my W refuses to see a T or to consider AD, even though her mother and sister take them. She is very proud and stubborn and I think she refuses to think that she needs any help. She is extremely stubborn!
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It seems obvious but I think she needs to get in touch with herself more before any chance of a big O
Agreed, I just don't know how to encourage her to do that, she's not interested.
The way I discovered OM was that I found her email and IM correspondence with him. She was very affectionate and loving. She was much more vulnerable than she has ever been with me.
What makes me crazy is from reading that, I know she's capable of being warm and affectionate, I just don't inspire that in her, or she won't give that to me and that hurts -- a lot.
At one point I asked her about that (mistake). She said that OM had no expectations, so she could be affectionate. I don't have high expectations! So much of it is in her head. I think the truth is that OM made it clear his W came first, so my W had to pursue. When I try to give space and let her pursue me she just starts crying.
I'm not sure what to do, but I hate feeling this way.
My W loves a TV show that's on Thursday nights. I have been watching it with her although it's not something I would choose to watch. It makes her happy and I like being part of that. Tonight I suggested we watch one of my favorite shows too and she agreed. She sat there the whole time with an angry/disinterested look on her face, and at the end told me it was awful, then we watched her show.
Really?
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Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
